Many questions from men come to our editorial office and often we answer them ourselves. But they decided to bring today's issue to the general discussion, because the situation is interesting, albeit sensitive. But its author, whose name is Mikhail, fully approved this and is waiting for your advice, which you can give in the comments.
Here is the situation of Mikhail, as he himself described it:
My wife and I have been together for more than 5 years. I am 32 years old she is 28. There are no children yet. That was not housing conditions, then they were too absorbed in work; in general, they decided to wait. The relationship is quite good. Of course there are disagreements, but nothing serious. However, recently I began to notice some oddities in the behavior of the spouse.
Firstly, periodic delays at work. She explains it differently. That was a lot of work. That drove to a friend after work. That just went shopping and could not find a suitable thing.
Secondly, she began to often stick on the phone. Periodically writes something. Sometimes he stays in the bathroom for a long time or leaves for another room, and if you go in, you can see that he is writing something again, but when he sees me, he immediately stops and starts to play with an amused gaiety. And at the same time, he never releases the phone from his hands. And the phone itself is password protected.
And thirdly, less attention has become. Less affection. That mood is not that. That state of health is not that. Or just not up to it. Although it is clear that the mood is still not bad. She does not walk "killed" or "exhausted."
Several times I tried to talk to her, saying "What is happening?" Is something wrong? "In response:" What did you get !? Don't talk bullshit !? What are you talking about !? ”I start to push, I get angry. That is, to bring to frankness does not work in any way.
And I do not know what to do? Start monitoring her physically? Or at some point grab a phone ...? Or harshly demand it at the time of her correspondence !? Or arrange some very tough jealousy scene and press until she confesses?
And if I just cheated myself and there is nothing behind it? And the correspondence is really with friends. Then look in her eyes a jealous paranoid?
I really need women's advice! Firstly, from your side, does it seem to me or not? And secondly, what to do wisely in this situation? How to get real evidence unnoticed? Maybe someone will share their experience?
