A white dress, a wedding ring and promises to love each other forever. ... All this is wonderful and every girl, getting married, sincerely believes in her happiness and a cloudless life after the wedding. But this does not always happen, often the marriage will break up. Such relationships leave a deep mark in the soul, after which it is very difficult to trust and love again.
To find happiness, you can only understand the mistakes that were made earlier, to draw conclusions. In addition, you should be aware of the "pitfalls" of remarriage, and what could hinder a happy union.
You will compare (albeit subconsciously) your current man with the previous one, and you need to be prepared for this. Domestic issues, intimacy and other situations that are not new to you can cause disagreement. If the marriage is repeated only for a woman, then this problem is much easier to solve, but if for a man, then conflicts are ensured, as there will be two to compare.
Tip: you need to get married when you are really ready for this, carefully considering and weighing everything. Leave the past behind and start all over with a white sheet, no need to compare, just live and enjoy.
They say that children are not strangers, but in life, everything is much more complicated. A partner may not be ready to accept your child and love him wholeheartedly, conflicts may also arise regarding upbringing, his methods. It happens that the child himself resists the new man: in every possible way he attracts attention with his behavior and tries to quarrel the newlyweds.
Tip: when choosing a man, consider the interests of your child, and also be prepared to accept the children of your man. Affection and patience can attract any person to yourself - do not forget about it and use this method in communicating with children.
Often, the girls themselves, without noticing it, attract the "same" men. Outwardly, they may differ, but the habits and character will be the same. The fact is that our subconscious mind has a certain set of characteristics that interest us. For example, a woman may like a strong man who solves all problems, but in a family he may not listen to the opinions of others and do everything his own way. Paying attention to such a type, a woman is doomed to go through an already familiar relationship scenario, which entails only new disappointments.
When getting married, girls tend to idealize their partner and family relationships in general. It is important to understand that shortcomings can only be corrected, but not undone.
Tip: Take a piece of paper and describe in detail "your" man. Understand yourself, maybe it’s worth changing your usual image?
The reasons for divorce can be listed endlessly, it can be infidelity, lack of money, alcoholism, violence. But if you "dig" deeper, it will become clear that these are not causes, but their consequence. Sometimes women themselves bring themselves and her husband to a divorce: reproaches, lack of loyalty, misunderstanding, and also nagging. Both are to blame for the quarrel, and this is a fact. It’s easy after parting to say “they didn’t agree with the characters”, it’s much harder to admit your guilt and try to correct your flaws. Only summing up the past relationship, you can not repeat the mistake in the future.
Tip: tell your partner what you expect from your family, talk about problems, seek a compromise, and demand the same from your husband.
After a bitter experience, many abstract themselves and minimize their investment in the family. This applies to both emotions and feelings, and material means. In this situation, there is nothing to be surprised that the relationship again failed. Do not let everything drift, direct all your resources to a new family, while creating strong and harmonious relationships.
It is important to have common plans and goals for the future, not to live in the past. It happens that a marriage breaks up as soon as the persecution of the ex-husband fades away.
The thing is that partners throw all their strength into repelling and discussing the past and do not think about a new family at all.
In the first stages, you and your new husband will have to work hard enough to be considered a couple. You should not react sharply to such questions: "How is your husband (the former, of course) doing?" Persistently, but gently, let us understand that you have a new life and these questions are useless.
If the divorce was the initiative of the husband, then the woman may have an obsessive fear of separation. As a result, when a woman starts a new relationship, she will strive with all her might to tie the new man to herself, starting to curry favor with him, to please everything, forgetting about herself. Do not forget that the man is a hunter by nature, and when a woman makes it clear that she is completely his, then her efforts cease to be appreciated properly. In addition, such a woman quickly gets bored, which means the formation of a crack in relations.
The desire of a woman to be the main one gives rise to many disagreements and quarrels.
If in the first marriage she suppressed a man, then she will surely try to repeat this in the second. A wise wife knows: "man is the motor, woman is the driver." Any person can be led to a decision that is beneficial to you and he will not even notice it, you just have to apply some tricks, as well as your charm. As a result, nobody’s vanity is hurt and everyone is happy.
Children are good, but you should not always put them first. Spending all the time to the child, relations with her husband can deteriorate. For a harmonious relationship, respect the "middle ground", taking into account the interests of each family member.
When creating a family again, be guided not by emotions, but by the mind. Do not rush, take a closer look, weigh all the qualities of a partner, look at his relationship with you, for which he is ready for the sake of his family. It is important to listen and hear your man, talk about your desires, be able to shut up and support in time, and also make a compromise. Treat problems with humor, so it will be much easier to solve them.
Ordinary female happiness is available to absolutely every woman, the main thing is desire, but there are funds.
